Staying clean - going beyond psycho-babble and addicition

For those of you who showed an interest in my acronym for staying clean here's a little more detail

Substance - most addiction is misguided self-medication. A dysfunctional wisdom to help deal with pain. It is always involves a substance - this may be alcohol for example of internally driven - adrenalin in the case of gambling addiction or serotonin in the case of porn addiction.
Getting to know the triggers and opportunities for that substance to gain control and the disinhibition mechanisms of the cycle is important in claiming ownership.

Ongoing - staying consciously clean is an ongoing process. There is never a moment when this cannot be. This can be traumatic or reframed into a life-enhancing meditation. Having awareness and compassion and ultimately love for oneself is key.

Bad or Breakthrough? Do you experience sobriety as bad, painful, a miserable struggle or if you could teach yourself to spot and reward your own incredible sometimes moment by moment breakthroughs which would you choose? Learning how to do this is something that most of us never get taught.

Responsibility - taking responsibility is such a hackneyed, psycho-babbled phrase. And yet the first step in any 12 step programme is just that. Owning it. But the second part - that one admits powerlessness is often overlooked. Responsibility is a two part thang - self ownerships and realising that one cannot do this alone. Finding a power source, a loving therapist (someone, something over and above friends and family) is key to so called 'personal responsibility'...after all if you could have done this alone before now you would have.

Intelligence - how totally wise addicts are. How human, vulnerable, hurting. We are all enslaved to something. But for the substance addict what is forgotten is that the substance itself robs the addict of the ability to connect to this intelligent self. The Catch 22 is that only when we are clean can we benefit from being clean.

Emotional journey - the state of sobriety is complex. It is spiritual - it involves not just the mind and body but the soul. However the major healing blocks are emotions. Those deep parts of ourselves which have learnt to hurt and bury. Allowing that past hurt to reveal itself in moments of unexpected joy or anger or grief is part of the journey.

Task(s) - daily. Little. Brief. Enormous. Have you made yourself a wonderful cup of tea today? Have you managed to smile at a stranger? Have to planted a plant in your garden? Held hands with your child? This is discipline. It involves the will. It means you must rejoice.

You...You...You will emerge. You will claim yourself from anxiety, pain, trauma into the stream of love and light that is your life.

Who sins what?

Here’s a worrying trend. A Vatican study, quoted in the Telegraph, has concluded: "pride is the most common sin committed by women... but ranks only at number five for men, who are most prone to lust, followed by gluttony.
The results of the survey, which was based on an analysis of confessional data carried out by 95-year-old Jesuit priest and scholar Roberto Busa, have been echoed by the Vatican.
Monsignor Wojciech Giertych, personal theologian to Pope Benedict XVI and the papal household told the Vatican newspaper L'Osservatore Romano: "Men and women sin in different ways. When you look at vices from the point of view of the difficulties they create you find that men experiment in a different way from women."
After lust and gluttony, the third most common sin by men is sloth followed by anger, pride and envy with avarice at the bottom. For women, envy was the second most common sin after pride, followed by anger, while sloth was the least likely."
That the priest should have been recording the content of the confessional is perhaps unethical? Can we really hold the saying "as safe as the confessional" now true?
"Last year the Vatican added seven new sins to the existing list: genetic modification; human experimentations: polluting the environment; social injustice; causing poverty; financial gluttony; and taking or selling drugs."
One wonders what the gender differences over the forthcoming years (presumably by someone younger than the 95 year old) will reveal. Will women catch up in the job market thus making it possible to indulge in financial gluttony as much as men? Which sex pollutes the environment more?
Surely the survey proves only not who sins what but who confesses to it?

More squeeze, less please

Scientists have attempted to explore the biological importance of the ring finger/index finger ratio, technically known as 2D:4D. If the ring finger is longer than the index it is taken to mean that one has had more exposure to testosterone in the womb. The ratio has been associated with generosity, sporting ability, propensity to heart attacks, exam success, arthritis and sexuality. Men tend to have a relatively long ring finger compared to their index fingers. Women's 2D:4D ratio tends to be even. It has been suggested that there is a higher percentage of longer ring fingers working as city stockbrokers.
What does this prove? That finger scientists like to tell us where we are in job market prospects. Gender and sexuality seem prone to the Protestant Work Ethic. Yet I am trying to escape the credit crunch. I’m looking for research that might be a little more raunchy. That might give me an injection of scientific umph. The best I can find is: ‘psychologists believe that to signal loyalty women orgasm more frequently if their man is rich.’ Wealth has now been added to body symmetry and attractiveness as criteria for copulatory satisfaction. That must mean fewer female orgasms as credit continues to crunch. It adds a whole new dimension to ‘interest rate.’